A mother is she who can take place of all others but whose place no one else can take.
“When the child is born, the mother is also born”
Above mentioned quotes are not just quotes, they are the actuality of life. In one of the post Motherhood: An emotion of love or a tough responsibility or a cherished moment.. I have mentioned that I have twin daughters to manage, I took a break from my office for almost 2 years. And since then, I took on and off-breaks from my office for the same purpose. So, after spending so much time at home I came to realize that it is desirable to be a full-time mother instead of managing dual work. The below-mentioned points give you a clear picture:
Child Sickness
Even when both parents are working, the responsibility of care for sick children usually falls on the mother.
Flexible Times
More flexible working hours required and extra parental leave for the ailing children.
High-Stress level
Working mothers work more hours (paid and unpaid) than working fathers.
Child Care Cost
Childcare costs can eat up much of the mother’s wage
Guilt
Most working women feel guilty and sad about their personal life.
Depression
Excess of stress and burden will lead them to fatal depression.
But, it is not at all easy to quit from the job. There are so many doubts, discomfort, tension, problems, and difficulties come into their mind while taking such a decision. For example
- Financial limitations
- Fear of loss of identity
- Lack of support
- Adjustment with other family members
- Behavior changes and many more
Despite all these, if women decide to sacrifice their carrier in the early years, it should be appreciated. My full regards to those, who could manage to take such a decision.
It doesn’t mean that household job is of lesser respect. It is the most respectable and appreciable job, whose value could not measure in terms of money or anything else. It is above all other kinds of jobs. It is like doing full-time 24×7 jobs without money. The reward suits to this job are APPRECIATION and RECOGNITION.
You know, when women work to support financially or so, she suffers a major trauma on each and every day of her life with or without letting people know. Because kids need their mother’s support and love at every phase of their life. But if I took a glance at the other side of the coin, it looks the same story with a different angle. The woman, who quit her carrier and starts taking care of household work, the whole pressure will come to her shoulder then. She starts losing that support from other family members, which she received during the time of her job. Again, she didn’t have time for herself. But her motherly guilt is gone.
I think, there is no particular conclusion regarding this matter. Time management is the key to success in both fields, but to manage time is not at all easy. Sometimes, 24 hours in a day seems insufficient. I can only say that this is an essential part of the kid’s angle but a great sacrifice from the mother’s angle.
Life is full of give and take. Give thanks and take NOTHING for granted.